Friday, July 30, 2010
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Nota semalam..
Salam dan terima kasih kerana sudi membelek blog ini.
Pertamanya, syukur Alhamdulillah kerana aku dilahirkan sebagai seorang Muslim. Tanpa ketentuan-Nya aku mungkin berkiblatkan selain Kaabah dan mungkin barbangsa eropah. Bermata biru, barambut perang dan bertubuh tinggi lampai. Tapi apa yang pasti, aku berkulit kuning langsat, bermata sepet dan bertubuh rendang seperti pohon yang tak berbuah. Maklumlah putera banjarlah katakan..
Banjar adalah rumpun melayu dan melayu itu beragama Islam. Betul ke statement nih? Tak semestinya melayu itu Islam dan Islam itu melayu. Mungkin secara kebetulan, dalam perlembagaan persekutuan menyatakan melayu itu orang yang berbahasa melayu dan beragama Islam.
Masuk Islam tak bererti masuk melayu. Habis semua kena tukar. Namanya, pakaiannya, cara makannya semua kena ikut melayu. Kalo takde songkok dgn kain pelikat takleh solat ker? Muslimat wajib pakai telekung ker kalo nak mengadap Allah!
Aku suka tagline nih "Islam for all". Islam untuk semua bukan hanya untuk bangsa melayu sahaja. Kalo dia orang asal sekalipun, dalam kubur tak ditanya bangsa apa tapi yang wajib apa agama kita.
Tersentuh jugak hati bila teringatkan waktu maghrib semalam. Masuk je surau utama di office terdengar azan dilaungkan. Sambil ambil wuduk tertanya jugak siapakah gerangan empunya suara yang begitu lunak malaungkan kalimah suci. Terkejut bila masuk sebab yang ada dalam tu sekumpulan saudara kita berbangsa bangla. Aku perhatikan mereka sambil tertanya dalam hati, orang kita macam nih ker. Tak macam mereka; walaupun hanya cleaner tapi solat mereka jaga, azan mereka laungkan, solat Jumaat mereka kerjakan walau terpaksa menapak beribu langkah. Mereka bukan ada kenderaan. Kalau ade pun takkan van company nak hantar mereka ke masjid. Silap-silap driver van pun kantoi dalam bilik driver masa solat Jumaat.
Apa yang aku kagumkan semangat mereka tu. Walau di negeri orang sekalipun mereka tetap menjalankan perintah tuhan.. KITA? renungkanlah.....
Sunday, July 25, 2010
Service car air-cond...
Salam,
Lama tak tulis blog nih. Hari ni baru tergerak nak tulis.
Sebenarnya dah lama dah masalah nih. Last week masa gi Bangi sian tengok anak-anak kepanasan dalam keta. Macam dok dalam sauna plak. Alhamdulillah, ada rezeki sikit ingat nak service air cond. Hujung minggu nih nak balik kg so memang kena buat minggu ni.
Ingatkan radiator bocor rupanya compressor dah nak kaput. Bunyi pun semacam jer. So esok keta masuk workshop. Sedialah dalam 3-4 ratus...
Lama tak tulis blog nih. Hari ni baru tergerak nak tulis.
Sebenarnya dah lama dah masalah nih. Last week masa gi Bangi sian tengok anak-anak kepanasan dalam keta. Macam dok dalam sauna plak. Alhamdulillah, ada rezeki sikit ingat nak service air cond. Hujung minggu nih nak balik kg so memang kena buat minggu ni.
Ingatkan radiator bocor rupanya compressor dah nak kaput. Bunyi pun semacam jer. So esok keta masuk workshop. Sedialah dalam 3-4 ratus...
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Possible Internet & Investment SCAMS avialable in Malaysia
Beware of these scams in the market. Don't invest blindly and lost all your hard earned money.
Anything that is too easy to make money is usually a scam.
Read the following interesting collections and be forewarned.
Attached is a good compilation of suspicious business scams.
1. The Cafe Scams - Island Red Cafe & Stevens Corner
(strange, both in Pandan Indah) - Island Red Cafe collects members RM6,000 each and promised 5% return every month and even give you a name in the ROC as a shareholder but what’s the point when they run away? Stevens Corner, the famous indian coffee shop follows due to drop of business since their renovation. They collect RM3,000 per member and promise return of RM150 monthly and plans to open nice fanchisee cafe called StevensTeaGarden. Someone mentioned they will make you sign an agreement that give them the rights NOT to pay you anything in future. If you really wish to join, ask for a copy of their agreement and consult your lawyer BEFORE paying them. Bet you will NOT get a copy. Both collect monies from new members with MLM recruitment schemes and pay the old members like Sunshine Empire. You never know when they will run away.
2. Sunshine Empire
This licensed and legal Company has an impressive office at the ground level of KUB building along Jalan Yap Kwan Seng, near Menara Public Bank and AmBank Building . They also have a showroom office at the ground level in the next building. 3 or 4 months ago, Singapore’s Straits Times and The Paper published big news reminding their people to be careful and NOT to believe in them. Hope someone can put up the link or google for it.(As expected, they STOPPED paying back members now and all investors LOST their money).
Someone below has put a link to the Singapore news. In fact there are more to it. Although Singapore is investigating them, they did not stop their business as the business is legal and so far, no Singaporean have failed to receive their commissions as promised. Thus, the government cannot stop them yet. The news published that the founder, director and group president is someone named James Phang but he is NOT the owner. Isn’t this quite strange ? At the end of the game, James Phang can just disappear from the Company easily and claimed that he was just “employed”. Such trick always happened in scam businesses. Now, the Company has STOPPED paying commissions and interests to members with the excuse that the Singapore government has freezed their bank account while under investigation. Do you think their boss will be so stupid to keep much monies in the bank to be freezed? They are all transfered away. It’s! just an excuses not to pay back to members and members are only paid “e-bonus-points” which is cashless. If they wish to convert to cash, they have to recruit new members to pay them cash and the recruiter less out trom the amount. So victims act like Vampires and “forced” to victimise other victims if they wish to get their monies back. And their victims will later transform to vampires and the scam carries on…..
3. MobilWallet
This Company owned by 2 young men, Stanley & Rey Gan, office in Queens Avenue Park has collect multi-millions the last 2 years. Claimed that they tied up with Telekoms, Utility Board payment like Water & Electricity bills, even Maybank got fooled by them. Advertisement Billboards everywhere. They STOPPED paying back their members few months ago and the members cannot do anything because they are made to sign an agreement unaware that they have to claims if the company stopped paying them by CHANGING terms and policies.
4. Water Business - Oxygenated and Alkaline Water Products
Some of these are bottled water and some are filters or equipment that claimed the trick..
One of the better known Company that sold “oxygen” water is SITO (supposed to stand for Selangor International Trading Organiszation and claimed Selangor State Government owned some share in it). The key person and founder is a Dato Robert Ong from Rawang but his name is no longer in the business now. Their products are sold for RM2 to RM3 for a 350ml bottle and now concentrating mostly in the Indian market. Their Chinese and Malays market are long gone since a year or 2 ago. Their customers are made to believe that their water has more oxygen and able to give miraculous effects for the body. Water is H2O, how to put more O into it ? Anyone knows how much oxygen do we breathe into our body everyday at FOC ? Latest news is that this SITO Company is going to create new label to market under a new Company since the SITO! name has already gone bad. Someone informed that this Company is owing alot of money(due to refunds) to ex-stockists but just refuse to pay them. (Latest news, SITO shifted to another place and their MLM business has closed but planning to start again with a different name, beware!!)
Alkaline Products - Can anyone explain how it can work for the body ? The stomach’s gastric liquid is so acidic that water of any pH that goes through it will not make any difference.
5. Car Fuel Booster - K-Link
K-Link, the famous scam MLM Company that sold the footpatch TAKARA, later the “cock-ring” and energy-card launched the patrol-saving pills last year. Got so hot that even grocery shops are selling for them. Recently many of these cars that used the pills are rushing to the workshops to clean the residual. Few months ago, another MLM Company launched a fuel booster gadget, claimed that saves up to 20% fuel, that is attached to the cigarette lighter. Started off well using binary plan but businese begin to fade now and most users find it NOT effective.
6. Perfumery Products
(eg. Lampe Berger & Bel Air)(more details later). Lampe Berger is not so hot now in the neighbouring countries but there are still new victims every month in Malaysia . Must thanks to those who have contributed and kept the thread alive here in Kopitiam. Bel-Air have closed in Malaysia . LB is almost zero in Singapore . This perfumery product from France with over 100 years history is just bottles and fragrance (check the factory’s website) but the Company marketing them in Asia claimed “aromatheraphy” products. Hong Kong TVB aired a program that exposed their scam but their members claimed that HK’s TVB already apologised to them. Note that the biggest strenght in a MLM Scam is their members will go all way out to lie in order to defend for their Company. The reason is simple; these members fear that they will not be able to make their money back if the Company collapsed. Knowing that the Lampe Berger ! products are moving slow, they add a line of skincare products named Estebel, also claime to have over 100 years history in France. (Hardly anymore Chinese newcomers, they are now tapping the Malays in Malaysia.)
7. Energy Products
(eg. stone pendants, bracelets, mattress and pillows). They use all sorts of gimmicks and demonstration to make you into believing them. They will do some tricks and demo to prove that these products really produce energy BUT is there any tricks in their demo? So what if there really produce energy; is it good or strong enough to help the body? The effect is actually PLACEBO which I will elaborate in a new thread soon. (More details later.)
8. Hi-Tech Products
Names like bio-tech, nano-tech that claimed millions of dollars of research involved, eg Bio-Young and XKL few years ago. Most of these will claimed a professor behind them (even with name and picture of a person) or used words like “U.S.A. formula”, “German Technology” or “Nanotechnology” and no further details (more details later). If you ask for more details like the professor or factory’s address, the answer will be “trade secrets”.
9. Investment Schemes
SWISSCASH is the King of all. Swisscash is nearly over now but there are many similar and smaller ones that are still on. (Now, it’s closed or stopped paying back members.) Please refer to http://www.sc.com.my/ for more details on investment and internet scams.
10. GoldQuest
This Company that claimed to be HK-based started with some non-value gold-plated coins that are sold for over RM2,000 have several names and changed products several times. QuestVacation, QuestNet, etc. They have several offices in Amcorp Mall, PJ and their key person (in fact, the owner), a Malaysian Indian was arrested last year in Indonesia for having involved in a very big Phillipines scam. Most of their overseas offices are closed or inactive but their Malaysia business is still hot, with some “energy” products. (Can someone please provide a link which showed the news that their boss was involved in a big scam in Philippines and was arrested in last year?)
11. Numerogy & Fortune Telling
A Company named Visible is using MLM to sell fortune telling classes using your birthday based on numerology fortune telling. Prpspects will be told that they need to buy a certain “number” between 1 to 9 in the form of pendants or bracelets made of stainless steel and sold from RM600 to RM20,000. Customers, or rather victims are mostly females from rural areas. Very hot in Penang now and a number of spin-off Companies have started.
12. MJ - Life
MJ-Life - This Company boost of a very big background with many many years of history which is NOT true. Their people or associates may be long in business but nothing to do with their MLM launched recently. Why do I consider it a scam or bad? New members are told to pay a sum of money (up to RM1000) and you get NOTHING for it. You only get a membership can entitle you to enjoy all sorts of special price and discounts when you have medical check-ups in their centres.. They will claim all those check-ups cost more if done elsewhere. It’s not true. Only the naive and those new to medical check-ups will fall victims to them. Most members who paid the money ended up with nothing.
13. Seaweed Venture Scams
1 such Company is located in Taman Maluri, Cheras. They will ask you to invest a few thousands ringgits for their venture of growing seaweeds in East Malaysia and you are guaranteed returns. To gain your confidence further, they will tell you your investment money is secured by “insurance” or “unit trusts” & “trustees”. When you ask for further documents to prove, they will give all sorts of excuses or just ignore you because they know they cannot get you. These Seaweed scam is one of the hottest now, warn all your friends about it before they are victimised.
14. MXM (Previously MGM)
This is a master scam among the younger group, very successful 2 or 3 years ago but since there moved to their big 10-storey office at Phileo Damansara and changed name to MXM, their business dropped. They collect members RM3,000 to RM4,000 with credit card monthly easy payment and in return you get a hospital benefits insurance from Pacific Insurance worth only a few hundred RMs together with some you-don’t-need medical check-ups from their associate Company Pathlab. Also talk about fitness, lifestyles bullshit that is all worthless.
15. Gano Excel
This company from the north, a copycat of DXN selling Lingzhi capsules created a new Company called Gano iTouch to cash-in on the internet like e-Cosway after their Company went down the drain since the last 2 years, selling Linzhi and some no-value energy pendants and alkaline water gadgets. They provide free transport every weekend from KL to visit their Alor Star office.
16. NuLife (HK)
This Company started by some HK people has been in Malaysia for more than 10 years but they have flopped in HK and Malaysia due to bad management and a product scam making use of a prosecuted American named Dr Jeffrey Bland, found guilty of false products claim. Since this case in the US leaked out and many Malaysians found out that the real boss in HK is a Steven Tang (he cheated many Malaysians in another scheme about 20 years ago) their business went down all the way. Now they claim Malaysian partners cheated them and start a new Company in Malaysia . Watch out, this new Company will come out with some investment scheme idea that will get many to lose their money.
17. Arowana Fish Breeding
Oora from Germany , Biofuel (Kompleks Maluri) etc - These are some newer scams. Arowana fish venture ask you to invest some money and give you fixed return. Biofuel will tell you their Indonesia connections (just like Sunshine Empire before using Taiwan) & Oora from Germany(I never trust those cruel Germans) that market some bio-chips and a gadget that claims to give energy and therapeutic effects of accupunture, tai-chi, yoga, etc depending how you set the toy-like gadget, wear it on your body and you get the effect later.
They could not explain or provide any demonstration to prove their effectiveness. Only doctors and papers claim that I will never trust. The health effect is actually PLACEBO, which I will elaborate in a different thread.
Lastly but not least, thank you for reading to the end and I hope you can come back for more details and updates or help to contribute for me to update.
Anything that is too easy to make money is usually a scam.
Read the following interesting collections and be forewarned.
Attached is a good compilation of suspicious business scams.
1. The Cafe Scams - Island Red Cafe & Stevens Corner
(strange, both in Pandan Indah) - Island Red Cafe collects members RM6,000 each and promised 5% return every month and even give you a name in the ROC as a shareholder but what’s the point when they run away? Stevens Corner, the famous indian coffee shop follows due to drop of business since their renovation. They collect RM3,000 per member and promise return of RM150 monthly and plans to open nice fanchisee cafe called StevensTeaGarden. Someone mentioned they will make you sign an agreement that give them the rights NOT to pay you anything in future. If you really wish to join, ask for a copy of their agreement and consult your lawyer BEFORE paying them. Bet you will NOT get a copy. Both collect monies from new members with MLM recruitment schemes and pay the old members like Sunshine Empire. You never know when they will run away.
2. Sunshine Empire
This licensed and legal Company has an impressive office at the ground level of KUB building along Jalan Yap Kwan Seng, near Menara Public Bank and AmBank Building . They also have a showroom office at the ground level in the next building. 3 or 4 months ago, Singapore’s Straits Times and The Paper published big news reminding their people to be careful and NOT to believe in them. Hope someone can put up the link or google for it.(As expected, they STOPPED paying back members now and all investors LOST their money).
Someone below has put a link to the Singapore news. In fact there are more to it. Although Singapore is investigating them, they did not stop their business as the business is legal and so far, no Singaporean have failed to receive their commissions as promised. Thus, the government cannot stop them yet. The news published that the founder, director and group president is someone named James Phang but he is NOT the owner. Isn’t this quite strange ? At the end of the game, James Phang can just disappear from the Company easily and claimed that he was just “employed”. Such trick always happened in scam businesses. Now, the Company has STOPPED paying commissions and interests to members with the excuse that the Singapore government has freezed their bank account while under investigation. Do you think their boss will be so stupid to keep much monies in the bank to be freezed? They are all transfered away. It’s! just an excuses not to pay back to members and members are only paid “e-bonus-points” which is cashless. If they wish to convert to cash, they have to recruit new members to pay them cash and the recruiter less out trom the amount. So victims act like Vampires and “forced” to victimise other victims if they wish to get their monies back. And their victims will later transform to vampires and the scam carries on…..
3. MobilWallet
This Company owned by 2 young men, Stanley & Rey Gan, office in Queens Avenue Park has collect multi-millions the last 2 years. Claimed that they tied up with Telekoms, Utility Board payment like Water & Electricity bills, even Maybank got fooled by them. Advertisement Billboards everywhere. They STOPPED paying back their members few months ago and the members cannot do anything because they are made to sign an agreement unaware that they have to claims if the company stopped paying them by CHANGING terms and policies.
4. Water Business - Oxygenated and Alkaline Water Products
Some of these are bottled water and some are filters or equipment that claimed the trick..
One of the better known Company that sold “oxygen” water is SITO (supposed to stand for Selangor International Trading Organiszation and claimed Selangor State Government owned some share in it). The key person and founder is a Dato Robert Ong from Rawang but his name is no longer in the business now. Their products are sold for RM2 to RM3 for a 350ml bottle and now concentrating mostly in the Indian market. Their Chinese and Malays market are long gone since a year or 2 ago. Their customers are made to believe that their water has more oxygen and able to give miraculous effects for the body. Water is H2O, how to put more O into it ? Anyone knows how much oxygen do we breathe into our body everyday at FOC ? Latest news is that this SITO Company is going to create new label to market under a new Company since the SITO! name has already gone bad. Someone informed that this Company is owing alot of money(due to refunds) to ex-stockists but just refuse to pay them. (Latest news, SITO shifted to another place and their MLM business has closed but planning to start again with a different name, beware!!)
Alkaline Products - Can anyone explain how it can work for the body ? The stomach’s gastric liquid is so acidic that water of any pH that goes through it will not make any difference.
5. Car Fuel Booster - K-Link
K-Link, the famous scam MLM Company that sold the footpatch TAKARA, later the “cock-ring” and energy-card launched the patrol-saving pills last year. Got so hot that even grocery shops are selling for them. Recently many of these cars that used the pills are rushing to the workshops to clean the residual. Few months ago, another MLM Company launched a fuel booster gadget, claimed that saves up to 20% fuel, that is attached to the cigarette lighter. Started off well using binary plan but businese begin to fade now and most users find it NOT effective.
6. Perfumery Products
(eg. Lampe Berger & Bel Air)(more details later). Lampe Berger is not so hot now in the neighbouring countries but there are still new victims every month in Malaysia . Must thanks to those who have contributed and kept the thread alive here in Kopitiam. Bel-Air have closed in Malaysia . LB is almost zero in Singapore . This perfumery product from France with over 100 years history is just bottles and fragrance (check the factory’s website) but the Company marketing them in Asia claimed “aromatheraphy” products. Hong Kong TVB aired a program that exposed their scam but their members claimed that HK’s TVB already apologised to them. Note that the biggest strenght in a MLM Scam is their members will go all way out to lie in order to defend for their Company. The reason is simple; these members fear that they will not be able to make their money back if the Company collapsed. Knowing that the Lampe Berger ! products are moving slow, they add a line of skincare products named Estebel, also claime to have over 100 years history in France. (Hardly anymore Chinese newcomers, they are now tapping the Malays in Malaysia.)
7. Energy Products
(eg. stone pendants, bracelets, mattress and pillows). They use all sorts of gimmicks and demonstration to make you into believing them. They will do some tricks and demo to prove that these products really produce energy BUT is there any tricks in their demo? So what if there really produce energy; is it good or strong enough to help the body? The effect is actually PLACEBO which I will elaborate in a new thread soon. (More details later.)
8. Hi-Tech Products
Names like bio-tech, nano-tech that claimed millions of dollars of research involved, eg Bio-Young and XKL few years ago. Most of these will claimed a professor behind them (even with name and picture of a person) or used words like “U.S.A. formula”, “German Technology” or “Nanotechnology” and no further details (more details later). If you ask for more details like the professor or factory’s address, the answer will be “trade secrets”.
9. Investment Schemes
SWISSCASH is the King of all. Swisscash is nearly over now but there are many similar and smaller ones that are still on. (Now, it’s closed or stopped paying back members.) Please refer to http://www.sc.com.my/ for more details on investment and internet scams.
10. GoldQuest
This Company that claimed to be HK-based started with some non-value gold-plated coins that are sold for over RM2,000 have several names and changed products several times. QuestVacation, QuestNet, etc. They have several offices in Amcorp Mall, PJ and their key person (in fact, the owner), a Malaysian Indian was arrested last year in Indonesia for having involved in a very big Phillipines scam. Most of their overseas offices are closed or inactive but their Malaysia business is still hot, with some “energy” products. (Can someone please provide a link which showed the news that their boss was involved in a big scam in Philippines and was arrested in last year?)
11. Numerogy & Fortune Telling
A Company named Visible is using MLM to sell fortune telling classes using your birthday based on numerology fortune telling. Prpspects will be told that they need to buy a certain “number” between 1 to 9 in the form of pendants or bracelets made of stainless steel and sold from RM600 to RM20,000. Customers, or rather victims are mostly females from rural areas. Very hot in Penang now and a number of spin-off Companies have started.
12. MJ - Life
MJ-Life - This Company boost of a very big background with many many years of history which is NOT true. Their people or associates may be long in business but nothing to do with their MLM launched recently. Why do I consider it a scam or bad? New members are told to pay a sum of money (up to RM1000) and you get NOTHING for it. You only get a membership can entitle you to enjoy all sorts of special price and discounts when you have medical check-ups in their centres.. They will claim all those check-ups cost more if done elsewhere. It’s not true. Only the naive and those new to medical check-ups will fall victims to them. Most members who paid the money ended up with nothing.
13. Seaweed Venture Scams
1 such Company is located in Taman Maluri, Cheras. They will ask you to invest a few thousands ringgits for their venture of growing seaweeds in East Malaysia and you are guaranteed returns. To gain your confidence further, they will tell you your investment money is secured by “insurance” or “unit trusts” & “trustees”. When you ask for further documents to prove, they will give all sorts of excuses or just ignore you because they know they cannot get you. These Seaweed scam is one of the hottest now, warn all your friends about it before they are victimised.
14. MXM (Previously MGM)
This is a master scam among the younger group, very successful 2 or 3 years ago but since there moved to their big 10-storey office at Phileo Damansara and changed name to MXM, their business dropped. They collect members RM3,000 to RM4,000 with credit card monthly easy payment and in return you get a hospital benefits insurance from Pacific Insurance worth only a few hundred RMs together with some you-don’t-need medical check-ups from their associate Company Pathlab. Also talk about fitness, lifestyles bullshit that is all worthless.
15. Gano Excel
This company from the north, a copycat of DXN selling Lingzhi capsules created a new Company called Gano iTouch to cash-in on the internet like e-Cosway after their Company went down the drain since the last 2 years, selling Linzhi and some no-value energy pendants and alkaline water gadgets. They provide free transport every weekend from KL to visit their Alor Star office.
16. NuLife (HK)
This Company started by some HK people has been in Malaysia for more than 10 years but they have flopped in HK and Malaysia due to bad management and a product scam making use of a prosecuted American named Dr Jeffrey Bland, found guilty of false products claim. Since this case in the US leaked out and many Malaysians found out that the real boss in HK is a Steven Tang (he cheated many Malaysians in another scheme about 20 years ago) their business went down all the way. Now they claim Malaysian partners cheated them and start a new Company in Malaysia . Watch out, this new Company will come out with some investment scheme idea that will get many to lose their money.
17. Arowana Fish Breeding
Oora from Germany , Biofuel (Kompleks Maluri) etc - These are some newer scams. Arowana fish venture ask you to invest some money and give you fixed return. Biofuel will tell you their Indonesia connections (just like Sunshine Empire before using Taiwan) & Oora from Germany(I never trust those cruel Germans) that market some bio-chips and a gadget that claims to give energy and therapeutic effects of accupunture, tai-chi, yoga, etc depending how you set the toy-like gadget, wear it on your body and you get the effect later.
They could not explain or provide any demonstration to prove their effectiveness. Only doctors and papers claim that I will never trust. The health effect is actually PLACEBO, which I will elaborate in a different thread.
Lastly but not least, thank you for reading to the end and I hope you can come back for more details and updates or help to contribute for me to update.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Dosa-Dosa & Facebook
Semenjak empat bulan terlibat dalam menyampaikan mesej kebaikan, melarang kemungkaran melalui facebook. Disedari terdapat beberapa cara penggunaannya yang patut ditegah dan boleh jatuh perbuatan tersebut kepada haram, malah berganda-ganda haramnya.
Perlakuan dan perbuatan melalui facebook yang boleh mengundang dosa terlalu banyak, namun di kesempatan ini, cukup saya senaraikan enam perkara, iaitu :-
1) Mendedah keaiban suami, isteri di facebook.
Terdapat beberapa kes yang dilihat sama ada secara langsung atau tidak langsung, pemilik facebook meluahkan perasaan sedih, kecewa, benci, marah terhadap pasangan di ruang status mereka. Mendesak suami atau isteri juga melalui status facebook. Kemudian, status tersebut mendapat komentar pelbagai dari rakan-rakan mereka. Sebagai contoh, ada yang secara terbuka mendesak suami membeli rumah, kereta, pinggan mangkuk, perabot, pakaian dan sebegainya melalui status mereka. Tertekanlah suami serba salah.
Sebagaimana yang disebut oleh ramai specialist di dalam bidang rumah tangga, kebanyakan wanita suka berkongsi dan meluahkan perasaan mereka kepada orang lain sebagai pelepas kepada beban yang ditanggung. Adakalanya ia mungkin bukan bertujuan untuk menjatuhkan suaminya, bukan pula untuk tujuan membuka aib suami atau untuk mencari penyelesaian. Pendedahan itu hanya sebagai pelepas tekanan di dalam diri.
Namun, tanpa disedari perbuatan tersebut tergolong dalam mengumpat yang diharamkan oleh Islam. Semua perlu memahami bahawa mereka tidak boleh sewenangnya bercerita perihal rumahtangga atau pasangan mereka secara terbuka sama ada melalui facebook atau kepada rakan di pejabat dan sebagainya. Sebarang masalah yang sudah tidak dapat diselesaikan olehnya, hanya dibenarkan untuk diluahkan kepada seseorang yang diyakini punyai autoriti seperti ibubapa, mertua dan adik beradik yang diyakini boleh berperanan membantu, bukan berpotensi mengeruhkan lagi keadaan. Boleh juga dikongsikan secara tertutup kepada pihak ketiga seperti Qadhi, Mufti, para ilmuan sama ada Ustaz, Ustazah atau Kaunselor Rumahtangga.
Pendedahan masalah dan info yang boleh mengaibkan suami (dan isteri) TIDAK DIBENARKAN sama sekali disebarkan melalui facebook. Apabila ia dilakukan, ia dengan mudah sekali boleh mengundang dosa.
Terdapat sebahagiannya info tidak secara langsung mengaibkan pasangan, tetapi selaku pembaca, kita dapat ‘membaca' dan mengetahui secara tersirat bahawa si pemilik sedang ‘perang dingin' dengan pasangannya. Ada juga yang difahami, suaminya sedang gagal memenuhi apa yang diingininya, bersifat kurang baik kepadanya dan sebagainya. Ingatlah semua, rumahtangga adalah amanah, jangan meruntuhkannya melalui facebook.
Beramanahlah, berikan suami dan isteri anda password facebook anda, agar mereka sentiasa boleh meneliti mesej-mesej yang dihantar kepada anda. Boleh juga pasangan berperanan selaku penyemak dan memadam (delete) mana yang perlu jika dimasukkan secara emosi tanpa pertimbangan aqal yang wajar.
2) Terlebih gambar
Ramai di kalangan wanita hari ini sudah mempunyai facebook, mungkin sudah menjadi lumrah wanita yang biasanya inginkan kecantikan dan pujian terhadap kecantikannya. Oleh itu, semakin ramai wanita yang memuatkan gambar mereka, sama ada jarak dekat, sangat dekat ( sehingga memenuhi kotak gambar) dan jauh (beramai-ramai atau seorang diri). Ditambah pula lagi dengan gaya, aksi dan fesyen yang pelbagai.
Agak pelik juga kerana sebahagian mereka sudah bersuami dan kelihatan suami mereka memberikan sepenuh keredhaan atas tayangan gambar sedemikian kepada khalayak, tanpa sebarang rasa cemburu dan prihatin. Lebih merbahayakan, ramai pula lelaki yang menontonnya, sebahagiannya memberikan pujian, malah ada yang berani bergurau senda, dan membuat ‘lamaran' nafsu.
Lebih pelik, tuan punya facebook yang sepatutnya mampu mengawal dan memadam sebarang komen kurang etika, kelihatan membiarkan sahaja lamaran nafsu (seperti ajakan berdating, kahwin-padahal telah bersuami) tersebut di ruangan komentar gambarnya, tanpa rasa bersalah.
Berterusan bercanda mereka melalui ruang komentar, si lelaki dan wanita ada juga yang telah beristeri dan bersuami, cuma atas tiket kawan lama, sepejabat dan sebagainya, hal tersebut dibiarkan. Malah jika kedua-duanya masih bujang sekalipun, ia tetap BERDOSA dan SALAH di sisi Islam kerana ia termasuk dalam kategori larangan Allah ‘janganlah kamu menghampiri zina'.
Saya bimbang, ramai pula lelaki yang menjadi dayus dek kerana gambar isteri terdedah aurat ( atau menutup aurat kurang sempurna) ditayang sehabisnya di facebook. Baca perihal ciri lelaki dayus di sini .
3) Penyamaran
Lelaki menyamar sebagai wanita untuk menjadi friend dan seterusnya mendapat maklumat wanita. Ada dilaporkan juga, sebahagian lelaki berang kerana tidak diluluskan menjadi ‘friend' seseorang wanita. Akibatnya, si lelaki tidak mendapat kemudahan akses kepada gambar-gambar wanita tersebut. Bagi membolehkannya mendapat akses, terdapat lelaki yang mula menyamar menjadi wanita, meletakkan gambar mana-mana wanita yang boleh dijumpai secara mudah tertebaran di interent, diletakkan sebagai dirinya. Melalui cara itu, lelaki ini berjaya menjadi friend dan menonton seluruh gambar wanita terbabit dan berbuat apa yang disukainya dengan gambar itu.
Si wanita yang pada asalnya merasa selamat kerana merasakan dirinya telah menapis sebaiknya, rupanya masih terdedah gambarnya kepada yang orang yang tidak sepatutnya. Kerana itu, walau anda hanya membenarkan friend untuk menatapi gambar anda, pastikan semua gambar tersebut masih terhad dan terjaga.
4) Download gambar untuk simpanan dan tatapan.
Dimaklumkan juga, akibat dek kerana gambar wanita yang terlalu ‘bersepah' difacebook, terdapat lelaki berhati buas yang memuat turun gambar tersebut dan disimpan sebagai koleksi peribadinya. Justeru, sedarlah, mana-mana wanita yang dikurniakan Allah punyai ‘rupa' yang menurut pandangan ramai sebagai elok dan menawan. Golongan sebegini amat perlu sekali lebih berwaspada lebih daripada mereka yang lain.
Malangnya, golongan sebegini kelihatan lebih ghairah menjaja gambar mereka untuk mendapat lebih banyak pujian dan ...'DOSA'. Simpan sahajalah gambar-gambar 'kiut' (cute) anda, cukuplah ia buat tatapan suami. Cukuplah pujian rakan sekeliling yang benar-benar mengenali anda. Tidak perlulah tamakkan pujian manusia luar.
Tunggu sahajalah pujian para malaikat dan bidadari di Syurga nanti, terlampau tidak sabarkah wahai diri? Sedarilah, ke'kiut'an anda mungkin menjadikan sebuah rumahtangga hancur, kecemburuan wanita lain, kerana boleh wujud gejala suami yang membanding-bandingkan wajah dan tubuh anda dengan isterinya. Jika itu berlaku, pemilik gambar mendapat saham dosa.
5) Tagging gambar tanpa izin dan gambar silam yang membuka aurat.
Tagging atau menandakan sesuatu gambar yang disiar merupakan satu fungsi mudah untuk menyebarluaskan gambar seseorang termasuk diri sendiri kepada kenalan dan rakan. Malangnya fungsi ini menjadi sumber dosa yang banyak juga dewasa ini. Isu ini juga pernah ditulis oleh beberapa penulis lain seperti Ust Abu Umair dan Sdr Shahmuzir. Saya ingin menegaskan lagi tulisan mereka.
Ini adalah kerana, terdapat ‘trend' menyebarkan gambar-gambar lama, dan kemudian meletakkan tagging kepada individu di dalam gambar. Perlu disedari, setiap gambar yang di'tag', akan muncul dan boleh dilihat oleh semua friend, dan rakan kepada friend tersebut juga boleh menontonnya.
Ini boleh menjadi dosa, kerana :-
a- Sebahagian individu di dalam gambar terbabit mungkin dahulu tidak menutup aurat, tetapi kini telah menutup aurat. Justeru penyebaran gambarnya yang tidak menutup aurat adalah haram.
b- Individu terbabit berada di dalam rumah, bersama keluarga, justeru penutupan auratnya tidak begitu sempurna kerana di dalam rumah sendiri atau di dalam keadaan ‘candid', tetapi akibat ketidakperihatinan sebahagian ahli keluarga terhadap hal aurat. Gambarnya yang sedemikian tersebar. Sepatutnya, kita yang di'tanda' boleh dengan segera delete 'tag' itu, hasilnya walau gambar masih tersiar tetapi ia tidak mempunyai sebarang pengenalan. Itu paling kurang boleh dilakukan oleh individu yang prihatin dan berawas-awas. Namun malangnya, sebahagian pemilik facebook tidak sedar mereka boleh ‘untagged' nama mereka. Malah kalau mereka boleh untagged sekalipun, penyebaran gambar sedemikian tetap salah dan berDOSA di dalam Islam.
c- Gambar mengaibkan orang lain. Gambar yang disiarkan itu, walaupun menutup aurat, tetapi dalam situasi mengaibkan. Mungkin ia tidak mengaibkan individu yang menyiarkannya kerana dia dalam keadaan baik dan bagus. Namun rakannya berada dalam situasi mengaibkan, tambahan pula dia kini merupakan ‘seseorang' yang terhormat, punyai kedudukan baik di mata masyarakat,. Apabila gambar sedemikian disiarkan, ia mencemar nama baiknya. Penyiaran sebegitu sama seperti mengutuknya secara langsung di khalayak ramai, sama ada sengaja atau tidak, semua perlu sedar..anda mungkin bebas menyiarkan gambar anda, namun gambar orang lain. Keizinan perlu diperolehi terlebih dahulu sebelum siaran dibuat.
6. Mengutuk diri sendiri & kebaikan
Adakalanya terdapat juga wanita-wanita berpenampilan cukup solehah, berpakaian extra caution dalam bab aurat sewaktu zaman universiti atau sekolahnya. Namun sesudah masuk ke alam pekerjaan dan perkahwinan, imejnya berubah begitu drastik dengan make up cukup jelas menghiasi wajah, baju bekerlipan warnanya, yang tebal dahulu sudah jadi nipis, adakalanya tidak sempurna dan macam-macam lagi. Alasannya? Seribu satu macam. Suami pula mungkin bukan dari jenis yang cermat untuk menegur dan menasihat.
Yang menyedihkan, apabila tersiar gambar lamanya yang berpakaian extra caution lagi sopan di facebook, disiarkan oleh rakan-rkana lama. Tuan punya tubuh, kelihatan tanpa malu dan segan mengutuk dirinya sendiri sama ada secara langsung atau tidak langsung. Lahirlah kata-kata, ‘zaman aku ekstrem', ‘zaman solehah', ‘waktu innocent', zaman-zaman suci', 'itu zaman kuno dulu', 'itu masa duduk bawah tempurung' dan lain-lain frasa yang sepertinya.
Tanpa disedarinya, ia mendedahkan keaiban dirinya sendiri, apabila berkata zaman solehah, bermakna kini adakah dia mengaku tidak lagi solehah?, kini tidak suci?. dan lain-lain. Ia juga sekaligus seolah mengutuk pemakaian sopan dirinya dahulu. Ingatlah wahai diri, jika tidak mampu istiqamah atas pakaian dan penampilan dahulu, janganlah sampai mengutuknya. Kerana ia sama seperti mengutuk pakaian yang sopan lagi baik, seolah mendahulukan yang kurang baik.
KESIMPULAN
Itulah facebook, ia boleh menjadi sumber pahala, jika diguna dengan betul, boleh menjadi pemudah azab jika digunakan tanpa ilmu dan limitasi. Berhati-hatilah dan berpada-padalah pemilik facebook.
Niat untuk mendekatkan ukhuwwah antara rakan lama, sekolah dan sebagainya tidak sama sekali boleh menghalalkan sembangan mesra, gurauan senda di antara suami dan isteri orang, antara lelaki dan wanita yang bukan mahram. Ia hanya akan membawa kepada kemudaratan dan keruntuhan rumahtangga. Janganlah lagi mempermainkan nama 'ukhuwah' untuk berbuat dosa.
Ukhuwwah itu hanya terhad sesuatu yang membawa kepada ingatan kepada Allah, mengajak kebaikan dan menjauh kemungkaran. Lihatlah surah al-Hujurat dan fahamkan kalam Allah sebaiknya akan erti ukhuwwah di kalangan mukmin.
Sekian
Zaharuddin Abd Rahman
www.zaharuddin.net
3 Mei 2010
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